Edited: 12/8/09 12:22 PM
Member Since: 11/19/09
Member Since: 11/19/09
As a woman, I welcome sparring with other females because its not something I get to do often. I cannot say that feeling is always reciprocated, certainly not because I am a difficult person to roll with, but moreso because most women do not like to venture outside their comfort zone...and that is sparring with men (and women) comparable to them in size.
I have never complained when paired up by my instructors with anyone. The only reservations I have are rolling with brand new, young buck white belts because they can be dangerous, and I cannot afford to get injured.
There are very few women, it seems, in the athletic arena who are serious about their sport. I have seen many women come and go throughout the course of the past decade, and moreso since I've been training JiuJitsu. You have those delusional enough to think they can handle the rigorous training of an elite school, those who are dying to get laid, those who are overweight and trying to get in shape, and those to whom BJJ is a passing fancy. It is quite amusing to observe and watch as the chaos unfolds on a regular basis, with fussing females storming off the mat because you've ruinned their hair and smeared their makeup. Those very same females will take a full hour to shower then make a grand exit, hips sacheting in brand new tight hip-hugging denim, blowing kisses and batting eyelids in the process.
I am fortunate in the sense that such women avoid me like the plague, but it can get very distracting and quite amusing to observe sexually charged rolls between opposite genders. I mean, what is a guy to do when he has a new white belt female trying to submit him by straddling his face.
I know for a fact that in a serious environment among serious minded athletes, no one has the time nor the patience for such distractions. So many times the women will end up paired up with each other, and it is a riot having to listen to the mindless jabber in the ladies room about losing strands of hair in what ends up resembling a classic catfight.
I, for one, have no idea how to "train" with other women, being a woman myself. I don't know how the guys deal with these situations given that one of them is bound to get paired up with a female at some point. I am doomed if I actually make a remote effort to execute a move efficiently, and am doomed If I don't. I personally prefer to train with men because I feel they serve far more of a challenge for me, which I find essential in breaking through plateaus and improving my game. Plus, men do not whimper and whine about their hair or how heavy you are.
It used to bother me that women would request they not get paired up with me, given how considerate I am on the mat of everyone I train with. Those are the same women who like to compete in the absolute division in local tounreys, which I find totally mind boggling. You'd think that a woman would welcome getting paired up with a partner in training who would pose a bit of a challenge in terms of size and strength, if she had a desire to compete against women of such less than favorable attributes.
Oh well. I suppose women do serve as an attraction too and can be good for business.