Edited: 7/20/14 2:51 PM
Member Since: 1/1/01
Member Since: 1/1/01
I've been criticized, rightly so, for my comments here suggesting that gay relationships aren't based on love, and that gay people can't really be happy with that lifestyIe.
So I've been reading some Gertrude Stein, who lived her life the way she wanted and didn't care what society thought or what she was "supposed to do". She referred to herself as "the man" in her sexual relationship with Alice B. Toklas, and Ernest Hemingway observed that she fulfilled the role admirably (Except that she never got her wife pregnant).
In fact, she is credited with coining the term "gay" to refer to homosexuals! So not only was she a brilliant artist, brave social warrior, and universal genius, she could quite rightly be called the Father of the Gay Movement in our modern times.
I couldn't help but realize how wrong I've been, when I read this exchange between Gertrude Stein and Ernest Hemingway:
"You know nothing about any of this, really, Hemingway," she said. "You've met known criminals and sick people and vicious people. The main thing is that the act male homosexuals commit is ugly and repugnant and afterwards they are disgusted with themselves. They drink and take drugs, to palliate this, but they are disgusted with the act and they are always changing partners and cannot be really happy."
"In women it is the opposite. They do nothing that they are disgusted by and nothing that is repulsive and afterwards they are happy and they can lead happy lives together."
"I see," I said. "But what about so and so?"
"She's vicious," Miss Stein said. "She's truly vicious, so she can never be happy except with new people. She corrupts people."
"You're sure you understand?"
I understand now, Miss Stein. Thank you. I had falsely believed that gay people can't find happiness, that they jumped from partner to partner seeking cheap thrills, and that they abused alcohol and drugs as a necessary part of their lifestyIe. But now I realize I was wrong, and Gertrude Stein has the truth of it: all of those things apply only to the gay men. Well, and some of the gay women too, but that's it!
I guess sometimes it takes a real genius to explain things in a way that can get through my thick skull.
So next time you find yourself about to say some things like that, just remember! The only people who say those things are hateful, ignorant, inbred, racist, brainwashed bigots, or either they're famous gay activists.