UnderGround Forums why does bjj often ruin people's social/sex life??

23 days ago
10/14/02
Posts: 799
before i start this thread let me state, i love bjj and have been doing it for over 10 years, and i have other other martial arts like boxing, and also some muay thai and mma training....

now to the point


1. they have no social life outside of bjj, the guy wakes up watches technique videos, goes to work, then does bjj class in evening, rolls, etc after class, he talks to some of his buddies from class, goes home smokes weed(i smoke myself and love it, so not the big issue here), watches some matches high, goes to the sleep...this pattern is repeated through the week....no social life outside of bjj, no sex life too because bjj classes are 90 percent dudes...

2. the weekend comes, he meets the same bjj guys(no chicks-no music,no night out) and watches ufc at someone's house has some beers and weed...event ends..they chill for a bit and everyone goes home....none of them went out this weekend, none of them met any new friends or women etc....i must say that brazilian bjj guys do go out and are social, so this issue is not theirs, its bjj guys in north america.

3. many guys i have met in bjj, are single for years and often times sexless too and get less women then average guys for those reasons...

4. the werid thing about joe rogan, they talk about him and his show non stop, he is their source on info mma, politics, drugs, social issues,history and so on....they spend hours a week listening to him instead off actually doing something...and many dont even realize that he has his bias's on issues just the rest of us.

5. many of them have very little interest in life outside of bjj/mma/combat sports, and interact very little with women due to this weird lifestyle, and keep talking about the two girls in their gym and how hot they are meanwhile these girls are just normal average looking chicks

6. the homebody thing, one of my good friends, started training at a new bjj school, and one the first things he hears is a purple belt telling someone..."ohh bro before bjj, i used to go out a lot to clubs or music festivals but now i am more of a homebody...and yes this guy is single lol

7. in boxing and other sports i have been in, yes for sure when completion season comes, everyone cuts down on their social life for plain known reasons but in bjj you have some blue belt who trains 3 times a week bjj and once weights doing this.....



i wanta hear what you guys think, what you agree or disagree with because yes in the last few years i fell into this trap to a big degree....but while i actually am doing more bjj now then ever before i stopped leading this anti social and often quite sexless life...and back normality lol
23 days ago
4/17/17
Posts: 766
I dont think bjj turns guys gay and fulfills their social life, if thats where you are going with this. I think shy gay guys turn to bjj to get their fulfillment in life.
23 days ago
8/19/17
Posts: 170

I turned to bjj and MMA to get me out of the party life. Only so many drinks and pills a man can down. I needed a change. Some people are better off without that stuff.

It never stopped me dating, but once you reach a certain point in a relationship, women do get tired of taking a backseat to training and the gym. 

I think it's because it's such a rewarding journey that a lot of people lose interest in everything else and just want to be zoned in on the training.

23 days ago
11/30/07
Posts: 60594

You seem to be projecting a bit. Worrying about other male's dating habits.. sure you're not the gay?

23 days ago
5/18/10
Posts: 11348

maybe it's a sport that attracts nerds rather than a sport that creates nerds

23 days ago
10/8/15
Posts: 1191

OP is worried BJJ is making him gay imo 

23 days ago
5/17/13
Posts: 10709

I used to train a lot, then I ended up meeting a chick and explained how much I was into this and she was into dance (NOT a stripper) and understood what it takes to be good.

 

My GF now is also super supportive. Although I dont train as much I can pretty much come and go as I please, as long as she gets the weekends, but still lets me watch MMA/BJJ. 

 

I honestly think BJJ has helped me get girls though, I used to be such an asshole and ive chilled out a lot. Or it might just be me getting old, lol.

23 days ago
3/9/08
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aside from the fact they all have bad backs and knees
23 days ago
4/26/13
Posts: 3477

Sounds like a pretty good life to me.

 

and I will disagree that they are sexless.  Most of my BJJ buddies are married or have girlfriends.  

23 days ago
10/14/02
Posts: 800
NothingGoldCanStay - 

OP is worried BJJ is making him gay imo 


who the fcuk said anything about gays,

was there any mention about anything gay???

is the truth of this thread hurting you
23 days ago
10/14/02
Posts: 801
Easters - 

Sounds like a pretty good life to me.

 

and I will disagree that they are sexless.  Most of my BJJ buddies are married or have girlfriends.  


thats why i used the word "often"

and just you have a gf or wife does not mention you have or had a great social life

you might have just settled for the first decent looking girl who gave you a shot lol




and your saying not having any interests outside of bjj and never going out is a great life???
23 days ago
10/14/02
Posts: 802
Ryann Von Doom - 

You seem to be projecting a bit. Worrying about other male's dating habits.. sure you're not the gay?


easy sjw, ask your mom if i am gay or not lol

but seriously
this thread is social commentary on a group of people, which i guess goes over your tiny uninformed uneducated mind


and how is gay to notice that this group seems to have a problem



consider the points before making insults
23 days ago
10/14/02
Posts: 803
MR31 - 

I turned to bjj and MMA to get me out of the party life. Only so many drinks and pills a man can down. I needed a change. Some people are better off without that stuff.

It never stopped me dating, but once you reach a certain point in a relationship, women do get tired of taking a backseat to training and the gym. 

I think it's because it's such a rewarding journey that a lot of people lose interest in everything else and just want to be zoned in on the training.


you made some good points and i agree with most of you said...



that being said what do you think about the joe rogan thing
23 days ago
10/14/02
Posts: 804
boxingman - 
Ryann Von Doom - 

You seem to be projecting a bit. Worrying about other male's dating habits.. sure you're not the gay?


easy sjw, ask your mom if i am gay or not lol

but seriously
this thread is social commentary on a group of people, which i guess goes over your tiny uninformed uneducated mind


and how is gay to notice that this group seems to have a problem



consider the points before making insults

easy sjw, ask your mom if i am gay or not lol

but seriously
this thread is social commentary on a group of people, which i guess goes over your tiny uninformed uneducated mind


and how is it gay to notice that this group seems to have a problem???



consider the points before making insults



i didnt mention gays once, did i?

dont be a stupid libtard who seems to think everyone is secretly gay...normal straight guys dont become gay because of their social life of dating life....

dont project your homosexual fantasies on others
23 days ago
9/13/12
Posts: 997
Hahaha, good post. I'm laughing because so many of my friends from BJJ are like this. Some of them even quit their jobs just to train full time. They never go out, just do Jiu Jitsu
23 days ago
9/10/10
Posts: 3415

everyone that is nerded out on fitness, has strange social life

the devout every minute of free time to the nerd fullfillment

The guys that do bjj a little, still are normal

but the guys that live it, they are will never have normal lifes.

23 days ago
6/24/05
Posts: 5963
I think for a lot of guys today weed + hobby + internet porn is enough to satisfy their needs.

Playing the dating game is a lot of time, money, and stress that can take these guys away from the things that make them happy in the short-term (IE getting higher, going to BJJ, and beating off).

23 days ago
10/14/02
Posts: 805
Foos - I think for a lot of guys today weed + hobby + internet porn is enough to satisfy their needs.

Playing the dating game is a lot of time, money, and stress that can take these guys away from the things that make them happy in the short-term (IE getting higher, going to BJJ, and beating off).


i could not have said it better myself
23 days ago
10/14/02
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GOKUJITSU - Hahaha, good post. I'm laughing because so many of my friends from BJJ are like this. Some of them even quit their jobs just to train full time. They never go out, just do Jiu Jitsu

for sure
anyone that actually has been around hard core bjj guys
understands
23 days ago
11/3/06
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OP you seem a little thin skinned to have been a UGer this long. You had to know some gay jokes were coming. :)
23 days ago
10/14/05
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At my last BJJ school, many of the guys were older and married. Some took their kids to the children's classes once they hit 5 or 6 years old.
23 days ago
4/26/13
Posts: 3478
boxingman -
Easters - 

Sounds like a pretty good life to me.

 

and I will disagree that they are sexless.  Most of my BJJ buddies are married or have girlfriends.  


thats why i used the word "often"

and just you have a gf or wife does not mention you have or had a great social life

you might have just settled for the first decent looking girl who gave you a shot lol




and your saying not having any interests outside of bjj and never going out is a great life???

I think you could replace "BJJ" with a lot of other hobbies and say the same thing.  Rock climbing, pick up basketball, fishing, etc.  ya some people have big time addictions but I think the majority have a balanced life outside of BJJ.

 

 

23 days ago
10/27/03
Posts: 19108

Why does BJJ ruin your sex life?

I can honestly say I've never seen that before in almost 20yrs of BJJ/MMA discussion on the net.


23 days ago
5/18/12
Posts: 16529

Combat sports/martial arts tend to take up a lot of time and really become a major thing in someones life. It can definitely hurt a social life, and sometimes sex life can be tied into it. I know personally I find myself turning down offers to go out every Friday night because I know I have MT early Saturday morning.

23 days ago
1/18/03
Posts: 15793
OP ain't entirely wrong.