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OtherGround Forum >> Thread for those suffering from low self-esteem
| 11/22/12 10:21 AM | |
Trichoke7
Member Since: 3/17/09 Posts: 10157 |
Ok, as many of you know I have a very low self-esteem. It's really bad, like bad bad. I know I can't be the only person on here suffering from this, so I made this thread for all of us who to share our thoughts, advice, and give support. For those of you who have overcome self-esteem issues, what worked for you? How much help did you need? Did you use self-help, or did you need to see someone? Did you require medication? For me, I cannot get past the first step of accepting that I deserve to have a higher self-esteem. I feel as though having a higher self-esteem requires me to be delusional about my value to society. Like I'll be one of those douchebags who thinks they have "swag" and walk around strutting even though they're just a fucking douchebag. I don't think I will literally be like that, just that people will perceive my higher self-confidence as being similarly unwarranted. But hey, they are happy with themselves, so maybe delusion has it's merits. Actually, I know that delusion has it's merits, for example delusional salesmen sell more than salesmen that have a more realistic view of the value of the product they are selling. Ok, so there's some of my story, now share your and let's get this thing started. |
| 11/22/12 10:23 AM | |
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Ninjaworm7555
Member Since: 12/22/11 Posts: 516 |
Why the low self esteem? Small dick, fat, short, bald, ugly....what's the problem man? 
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| 11/22/12 10:26 AM | |
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Trichoke7
Member Since: 3/17/09 Posts: 10158 |
Ninjaworm7555 - Why the low self esteem? Small dick, fat, short, bald, ugly....what's the problem man? Probably goes back to being bullied in school. It's stayed with me all these years (I'm 30 now). I do think I am short and have a small penis. I'm not bald, and people say I am attractive but I don't think it matters because I am short, have a small penis, poor, ect. |
| 11/22/12 10:30 AM | |
Malvert the Janitor
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Member Since: 9/5/11 Posts: 5204 |
Fix yo'self, foo! (please read in the voice of Mr. T) 
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| 11/22/12 10:34 AM | |
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Violence
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Member Since: 5/1/11 Posts: 527 |
Those swag fags mostly overcompensate for their insecurities with faggy clothes and arrogance. Being confident doesn't mean being an asshole. Being confident is being comfortable in your own skin. It's not something that happens overnight. You first make the conscious decision to be confident and work on it every waking moment of your life. You can think you're a worthless piece of shit for the rest of your life but it's not gonna get you anywhere. Everyone deserves to be confident. Everyone has the ability to contribute something great to society. Don't think or compare yourself to other people and focus on yourself. Dwelling on things doesn't do anything but hold you back. This is coming from someone who's a work in progress, severely depressed and has spent way too much time caring about what other people think. Hope it all works out for you. |
| 11/22/12 10:35 AM | |
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Trichoke7
Member Since: 3/17/09 Posts: 10160 |
Violence - Those swag fags mostly overcompensate for their insecurities with faggy clothes and arrogance. Being confident doesn't mean being an asshole. Being confident is being comfortable in your own skin. It's not something that happens overnight. You first make the conscious decision to be confident and work on it every waking moment of your life. You can think you're a worthless piece of shit for the rest of your life but it's not gonna get you anywhere. Everyone deserves to be confident. Everyone has the ability to contribute something great to society. Don't think or compare yourself to other people and focus on yourself. Dwelling on things doesn't do anything but hold you back. Thanks. What concrete methods are you using to work on your self-esteem? |
| 11/22/12 10:37 AM | |
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Ninjaworm7555
Member Since: 12/22/11 Posts: 517 |
How tall are you? As far as small dick goes, all I can say is make up for it by eating some mean pussy. 9 times out of 10 if you put in work with your mouth, your woman will overlook your baby dick. Be a "pleaser" in the sack and you'll always get return customers. You have a good job? Have your own place?
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| 11/22/12 10:39 AM | |
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Trichoke7
Member Since: 3/17/09 Posts: 10161 |
Ninjaworm7555 - How tall are you? As far as small dick goes, all I can say is make up for it by eating some mean pussy. 9 times out of 10 if you put in work with your mouth, your woman will overlook your baby dick. Be a "pleaser" in the sack and you'll always get return customers. You have a good job? Have your own place? I'm 5'8". Below average. No, I don't have a good job. I have a worthless Master's degree in Exercise Physiology. No one will even call me for an interview. |
| 11/22/12 10:40 AM | |
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westside
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Member Since: 5/15/12 Posts: 1044 |
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| 11/22/12 10:41 AM | |
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Violence
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Member Since: 5/1/11 Posts: 528 |
Trichoke7 -Violence - Those swag fags mostly overcompensate for their insecurities with faggy clothes and arrogance. Being confident doesn't mean being an asshole. Being confident is being comfortable in your own skin. It's not something that happens overnight. You first make the conscious decision to be confident and work on it every waking moment of your life. You can think you're a worthless piece of shit for the rest of your life but it's not gonna get you anywhere. Everyone deserves to be confident. Everyone has the ability to contribute something great to society. Don't think or compare yourself to other people and focus on yourself. Dwelling on things doesn't do anything but hold you back. I imagine a recycling bin in my head and put all bad things that have happened to me in the past and all my insecurities in it. Also, I find that saying "I am confident" in front of the mirror about 5 times in the morning and then 5 times in the night time helps. |
| 11/22/12 10:43 AM | |
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Trichoke7
Member Since: 3/17/09 Posts: 10162 |
Violence -Trichoke7 -Violence - Those swag fags mostly overcompensate for their insecurities with faggy clothes and arrogance. Being confident doesn't mean being an asshole. Being confident is being comfortable in your own skin. It's not something that happens overnight. You first make the conscious decision to be confident and work on it every waking moment of your life. You can think you're a worthless piece of shit for the rest of your life but it's not gonna get you anywhere. Everyone deserves to be confident. Everyone has the ability to contribute something great to society. Don't think or compare yourself to other people and focus on yourself. Dwelling on things doesn't do anything but hold you back. Interesting. Why do you think you've lacked confidence? |
| 11/22/12 10:45 AM | |
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Malvert the Janitor
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Member Since: 9/5/11 Posts: 5206 |
Attention seeker alert! Attention seeker alert!
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| 11/22/12 10:46 AM | |
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Trichoke7
Member Since: 3/17/09 Posts: 10163 |
Malvert the Janitor - Attention seeker alert! Attention seeker alert! Go fuck yourself. |
| 11/22/12 10:50 AM | |
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ajjr0ller
Member Since: 8/14/09 Posts: 9171 |
I'm right there with you half the time. Dad killed himself when I was five and then my mother started dating a 15 year old whom she married when he turned 18. He joined the military so we has to move every 6 months-2 years. I was bullied nearly everywhere I moved. Kids are assholes to the new guy and I never felt like I fit in anywhere. My family has a history of bipolar disorder as well, and my uncle killed himself earlier this year. I've always had a sense of dread that I'd end up like my father.
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| 11/22/12 10:52 AM | |
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Trichoke7
Member Since: 3/17/09 Posts: 10164 |
ajjr0ller - I'm right there with you half the time. Dad killed himself when I was five and then my mother started dating a 15 year old whom she married when he turned 18. He joined the military so we has to move every 6 months-2 years. I was bullied nearly everywhere I moved. Kids are assholes to the new guy and I never felt like I fit in anywhere. Wow, dude, that sucks big time. Sorry to hear. You do anything to help yourself? |
| 11/22/12 10:54 AM | |
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Violence
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Member Since: 5/1/11 Posts: 530 |
Trichoke7 -Violence -Trichoke7 -Violence - Those swag fags mostly overcompensate for their insecurities with faggy clothes and arrogance. Being confident doesn't mean being an asshole. Being confident is being comfortable in your own skin. It's not something that happens overnight. You first make the conscious decision to be confident and work on it every waking moment of your life. You can think you're a worthless piece of shit for the rest of your life but it's not gonna get you anywhere. Everyone deserves to be confident. Everyone has the ability to contribute something great to society. Don't think or compare yourself to other people and focus on yourself. Dwelling on things doesn't do anything but hold you back. Nobody taught me to be confident growing up. It's something I had to learn on my own. |
| 11/22/12 10:57 AM | |
Adventure Runner
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Member Since: 7/18/11 Posts: 1135 |
I'm a pretty confident person, but it's not because I think I'm of great value to society as a whole. If I were to die, I would be mourned by friends and family, but with the exception of my wife, life wouldn't change much for them either. I simply enjoy life. It's a wonderful thing, and I try to get the most of each and every experience and each and every day. I try to share that with those around me. Your self-worth isn't attached to anybody else's perception of you. It's SELF-worth. It's SELF-esteem. Be comfortable with who you are. Truly. Own it. Be unapologetically you. Don't like something about yourself? Work to change what you can and accept the things you can't change like your height. It's only after you are truly comfortable with yourself and are happy with who you are that you'll truly become confident. Nobody else can do this for you, but likewise nobody else should effect your feeling of self worth. |
| 11/22/12 11:00 AM | |
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Trichoke7
Member Since: 3/17/09 Posts: 10165 |
Adventure Runner - I'm a pretty confident person, but it's not because I think I'm of great value to society as a whole. If I were to die, I would be mourned by friends and family, but with the exception of my wife, life wouldn't change much for them either. I simply enjoy life. It's a wonderful thing, and I try to get the most of each and every experience and each and every day. I try to share that with those around me. I never thought of it like that before. I guess there's a reason for the "self" part of self-esteem. haha |
| 11/22/12 11:03 AM | |
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Adventure Runner
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Member Since: 7/18/11 Posts: 1136 |
Trichoke7 -Adventure Runner - I'm a pretty confident person, but it's not because I think I'm of great value to society as a whole. If I were to die, I would be mourned by friends and family, but with the exception of my wife, life wouldn't change much for them either. I simply enjoy life. It's a wonderful thing, and I try to get the most of each and every experience and each and every day. I try to share that with those around me. It's human nature to constantly compare yourself to others in every single way possible. You have to resist that and see it for what it is: totally inconsequential. Work on accepting yourself inwardly, and you'll find that outwardly people will respond in kind. |
| 11/22/12 11:06 AM | |
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Pokanghoya
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Member Since: 7/22/06 Posts: 1805 |
Do you still feel down on yourself even after accomplishing goals that you set? |
| 11/22/12 11:08 AM | |
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elitecmbt
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Member Since: 11/24/10 Posts: 294 |
You need to start being active and doing things that make you feel better about yourself. The most common thing is physical activity. Whether its a sport, working out, running, something to make your body feel good. Once you start feeling better physically, your mind will follow. Once you start being active then you need to set goals for yourself. I started with short term goals. Like I want to gain 5lbs of muscles. Then when you reach that maybe 5 more. By setting and achieving short term goals you will keep yourself motivated and eventually see long term results. Whatever you choose to do, make sure you are doing it because it makes you happy and not because you are trying to make someone else happy. Focus on yourself, not on others. You need to be happy with yourself before you can make others happy. If you stay committed you will eventually start realizing you are a different person. You will notice you are stronger both physically and mentally. Others will soon notice this also. So just start living for yourself and doing things that make you feel good. Be selfish. Get the fuck off the OG and do something productive.
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| 11/22/12 11:09 AM | |
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Trichoke7
Member Since: 3/17/09 Posts: 10166 |
Adventure Runner -Trichoke7 -Adventure Runner - I'm a pretty confident person, but it's not because I think I'm of great value to society as a whole. If I were to die, I would be mourned by friends and family, but with the exception of my wife, life wouldn't change much for them either. I simply enjoy life. It's a wonderful thing, and I try to get the most of each and every experience and each and every day. I try to share that with those around me. Thanks. |
| 11/22/12 11:10 AM | |
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Trichoke7
Member Since: 3/17/09 Posts: 10167 |
Pokanghoya - Do you still feel down on yourself even after accomplishing goals that you set? I would say accomplishing a goal only gives a very temporary respite. |
| 11/22/12 11:12 AM | |
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cruedi
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Member Since: 1/1/01 Posts: 2992 |
Trichoke7 -Ninjaworm7555 - How tall are you? As far as small dick goes, all I can say is make up for it by eating some mean pussy. 9 times out of 10 if you put in work with your mouth, your woman will overlook your baby dick. Be a "pleaser" in the sack and you'll always get return customers. You have a good job? Have your own place? Where do you live? I know a woman with that degree who works at a prison and loves her job. She's also on the national first responders team and is up in NJ now helping Sandy victims. You've just got to apply yourself, maybe a change of scenery will help. If your life is has bad as you're making it out to be it should be no trouble to pick up and move. |
| 11/22/12 11:13 AM | |
bighurtrocks
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Member Since: 11/30/09 Posts: 6339 |
I used to have really low self esteem due to a couple of events when I was younger. Then I just stopped giving a fuck what everybody else thought of me. It's amazing how easy it is to talk to females when you treat them like normal people instead of approaching them like they're too good for you.
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