Afterwards, I went to shake Ronda's hand. The gesture was one of solidarity, "You and I were a part of another great female fight, this is what female fighting is all about and these two women we trained just did every female fighter proud". But, instead, Ronda flipped me off. I'm kinda happy they showed that on TV because Ronda did it at least 20 times before then and it was edited out. But, honestly, she stuck her finger up to me literally every time she saw me for weeks and weeks.
While I find it interesting that this was really the first time the producers showed Ronda flipping me off, I really think the viewers are getting to see the real Ronda this season – and it's not pretty. She's got a great skillset and as an athlete she's awesome. But she's not interested in building female MMA, she's interested in building Ronda MMA and then leaving for movies or something else.
She isn't an MMA fan at heart. Shayna was the only fighter out of the 16 women who fought to get in the house that Ronda had heard of. The other girls, Ronda had no clue who they were, what they had done, where they had fought, nothing.
That's all cool, everyone wants to get ahead in life and I'm not saying she hasn't worked hard for years and years to become a great fighter with an amazing skillset. But I don't understand her attitude at all.
People have asked me what I've learned about Ronda from doing TUF with her. Basically, I've learned she's a lot more emotionally unstable that I ever could have realized if I didn't see her day-in, day-out for six weeks. I've learned that I can work her from a different angle, from a psychological angle.
I've never used "psychological warfare" in my career before. This is an unexplored aspect of the sport for me. I've never tried to get an opponent crazy or emotional on purpose to mess with their preparation or distract them. I know Ronda tried - and to a point succeeded - in making me emotional ahead of the first fight. She has said that's how she beat me the first fight.
However, now I've left that anger, that dislike of her behind me, she can't affect me emotionally like she did when we fought in Strikeforce. And what I think is happening is that because she can't have this effect on me, it is almost like she's become more emotional instead. I didn't go into TUF wanting to make her go crazy, to cry all the time, to get furious and scream all the time, but that's what happened. I think it is a huge mental victory for me ahead of our December 28 fight to know that, one, she can't get inside my head anymore and, two, to know how fragile she is emotionally.