Ronda’s Mom: TUF switch timing a ‘dick move’

Saturday, June 01, 2013

Ronda Rousey famously learned to fight under the guidance of her mother, Dr. Ann Maria Rousey DeMars, the first American to win a World Judo Championship. Dr. De Mars was given to taking maxims like “Practice doesn’t make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect” and making them more pointed.

“You know what happens when you practice half-@##, Ronda?” Dr. DeMars asked her daughter. “You f@#%ing lose!”

Ronda’s mom has a blog on achieving success in business, sports and academics, that includes random thoughts on Judo, parenting, mixed martial arts, winning & whatever she feels like rambling on.

The most recent entry is on the timing of the announcement that Miesha Tate was replacing an injured Cat Zingano on the next TUF.

Warning up front: This post is not for children.

Not that anyone asked me, but I thought I would give my opinion on The Ultimate Fighter show. I’ve only watched this show the season Manny Gamburyan was on it because, well, I have an actual job that requires me to go places like North Dakota, where I am at the moment, and do work.

Doing work conflicts with reality shows in general. I’ve watched about five minutes each of Jersey Shore (I think that’s the name) and some show about the Kardashians. Both times, I changed the channel quickly as I felt brain cells beginning to die. I’ve never watched the O.C. which explains why, when I asked our dentist, Dr. Pratt, how his children were doing he gave me a strange look and said, “You don’t watch TV, do you?”

When I heard about the last-minute switch in coaches for the show Ronda is on, my first thought was, “That’s a pretty dick move.”

Not so much replacing Cat, who was injured (ouch!) but keeping it from Ronda until the last minute. If you’re going to have an athletic competition, then it should be fair. Among other things, that means you don’t give one competitor information that the other doesn’t have. You don’t let one player know something weeks in advance of the other player.

So, it is pretty clear that whoever is making the decisions here has decided this is not an athletic competition, it’s a reality show. That’s what a lot of people have been saying all along, it’s just going to be a side show and not a serious athletic event.

Here is my advice to Ronda, not that she asked me either, but that has never stopped me before.

You know who gets to decide if this is an athletic competition or a reality show? You.

My coach used to be amused by other coaches who before the match would be giving lengthy instructions to my competitor – get your right cross grip, then go for the uchi mata, then switch…. As Jimmy Martin said, why didn’t they tell her that in the last six weeks before the match. Every now and then, though, he would get annoyed by all of the posturing. That’s when he would pull me close and whisper in my ear his coaching advice.

“F—. Her. Up.”

So, if I was Ronda, I would train my ass off and I would follow the sage coaching advice of Jimmy Martin. I’d also make damn sure I found out who pulled that dick move on me and never trust him/them again. The good thing is you get to take out your emotions beating people up and that will make a great show.

You can forgive, but don’t forget. If someone will manipulate you just for show, well, that tells you something about them doesn’t it?

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