OtherGround Forums Any Victims of Sexual Assualt or Rape on the OG

14 days ago
12/24/10
Posts: 5437

Personally as a kid  dealt with this and still bothers me to this day?  I sympathize with all of us who dealt with this. It made me mad, aggressive, self destructive and them some. Crazy topic to share but  anyone want to share / discuss? 

14 days ago
10/17/06
Posts: 3024

Are you a gay? 

Edited: 14 days ago
11/11/11
Posts: 25704

Men are victims too when it comes to this and hopefully there arent too many jackasses in this topic. Thank you for sharing op.

14 days ago
11/11/11
Posts: 25705

i am not your species, and I dont know your story OP, but therapy can be very benificial for things like this. Or at minimum finding supportive people you can open up with about these matters. I would speculate there is a lot of hurt and deep wounds over these events 

14 days ago
9/26/10
Posts: 23644

i have been assaulted according to the standards of the me too movement. but no i have not actually been assaulted. what a terrible thing for any child to have to go through. 

14 days ago
9/26/10
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good posts, bear. 

14 days ago
3/12/07
Posts: 14772
Andersons'sPiece -

Are you a gay? 

Your question is not funny and is only meant to hurt someone who has already admitted he has had difficulty in the past dealing with this trauma. 

Instead of trying to hurt people, you could just as easily be positive and supportive when a fellow OGer opens up about something and is asking for support. Well-intentioned ribbing is one thing. Being hurtful is very much different. 

14 days ago
7/22/06
Posts: 4723
Some ugly girl grabbed my butt in 7th grade.
14 days ago
3/12/07
Posts: 14773
phatcat -

Personally as a kid  dealt with this and still bothers me to this day?  I sympathize with all of us who dealt with this. It made me mad, aggressive, self destructive and them some. Crazy topic to share but  anyone want to share / discuss? 

I applaud your bravery in opening the discussion. Even though this is the internet, being able to face the trauma is a huge step towards recovery. You probably already know this, but your feelings are common, especially among men.

 

Edited: 13 days ago
7/25/08
Posts: 18615
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Edit:

I thought I was posting in troll thread, whoops.

Didn't realize people were being serious, so sorry if it came off like I was making light of your stuff.

My bad.
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12/18/08
Posts: 55034

Sexual assault. This man put his hands up my dress and felt all of me... happend in a matter of seconds... was so shocked i just froze still. Stared him right in the face as he walked away laughing, found out his name from the event host, went to the police, had no proof obviously, found his home, knocked on the door, told his wife, it wasnt the first time he had done this. That was all i could do. It was a really shitty experience. I will never walk anywhere or mingle at any event anymore without my husband beside me at all times. 

14 days ago
12/18/08
Posts: 55035
phatcat -

Personally as a kid  dealt with this and still bothers me to this day?  I sympathize with all of us who dealt with this. It made me mad, aggressive, self destructive and them some. Crazy topic to share but  anyone want to share / discuss? 

Sorry you experienced such a thing.

14 days ago
11/29/04
Posts: 6277

In the 7th grade, me and my friend almost got trapped in a pedo's apartment. We were dumb street kids and he offered us jobs and said to come to his apartment. When we got in, he turned on porn and invited us in his room. We yelled at him, busted out of that place quick and ran for blocks.

 

In my mind, I don't count this as assault but it would certainly be if the roles were reversed. Especially with the metoo movement.When I was single and dating, I took this girl out on a couple of dates and never had sex with her. I actually wanted to get to know her first because I'm old and wanted to see if she was quality so getting the quick lay wasn't my priority. I invited her to an event for which I was the co-chair and I guess she couldn't handle it. When I dropped her off at home, she begged for it and got pissed when I told her we should wait a bit. She got so pissed that she started questioning my manhood, arguing and not wanting me to leave. Finally I gave in and did it. Broke it off the next day. She was devastated.

14 days ago
7/2/17
Posts: 170

Its always good to talk to people about the thoughts that have going on in your mind. I know sexual assault is extremely common (they say like 50% of the women have or will experience some form of sexual assault in their lifetime). Imo the worst action someone can do is to take advantage over another person. One of my exes was eaten out at a young age by her friends older brother when she was asleep. As unstable as I found her to be, I'll never know how much of that portrays into her personal life. She has shit parents, so that probably takes the cake, she was mostly depressed until some new excitement came her way. 

And someone else that I knew, complete sweetheart. Had her butt groped by her exes friend, her bf didn't do anything about it being a total cuck, this bothered her in both ways. Even though this was the minimal action of harassment, it bothers her. I can't imagine going through stuff like that. But up until modern day society, everyone raped, adults raping kids, slaves, all of that for thousands of years.

 

14 days ago
4/13/12
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TheBearStare -

Men are victims too when it comes to this and hopefully there arent too many jackasses in this topic. Thank you for sharing op.

We all saw the Revenant, BearStare.  We know what you did to Leo.

14 days ago
11/11/11
Posts: 25707
Reenz -

In the 7th grade, me and my friend almost got trapped in a pedo's apartment. We were dumb street kids and he offered us jobs and said to come to his apartment. When we got in, he turned on porn and invited us in his room. We yelled at him, busted out of that place quick and ran for blocks.

 

In my mind, I don't count this as assault but it would certainly be if the roles were reversed. Especially with the metoo movement.When I was single and dating, I took this girl out on a couple of dates and never had sex with her. I actually wanted to get to know her first because I'm old and wanted to see if she was quality so getting the quick lay wasn't my priority. I invited her to an event for which I was the co-chair and I guess she couldn't handle it. When I dropped her off at home, she begged for it and got pissed when I told her we should wait a bit. She got so pissed that she started questioning my manhood, arguing and not wanting me to leave. Finally I gave in and did it. Broke it off the next day. She was devastated.

I appreciate this story.

 

 

Contrary to popular men of all species have feelings and emotions. I think this is one of the big areas society fuck over men, and men fuck each other and themselves over. Theres that one meme about men drowning or something to that effect because they arent allowed to express themselves. Healthy expression of emotion is a strength. Crying and emotional expression shouldnt be restrained just to when your dog dies and your favorite football team loses.

Even when it comes to sex, men are expected to always want it and to be horny n If they don't then that makes them "less of a man." Hell same stuff women have been arguing, just cause a man is erect or ejaculates doesnt mean he is enjoying it.

14 days ago
4/13/12
Posts: 36343

sorry to hear OP.  my best friend was abused by his older sister.  no one believes him to this day.  i've known him for almost 30 years now, and he just told me about 3 years ago.  broke down into tears about it.  it leaves scars for life but as i hope you know by now, it's nothing to be ashamed of and not your fault.

14 days ago
2/19/14
Posts: 7716

i was in the 8th grade, and i had a teacher that was trying to groom me for several months. obviously, at the time, i didn't understand what he was doing. i thought i was just the cool guy. he brought beer in his briefcase, and during recess, everyone would go outside, and he and i would sit in the and he pour the Little Kings into cups and we'd drink it. after school, we'd go driving in his big ol impala. hell, he actually taught me how to drive, i used to drive that big ass car all over the place. we'd go to his apt, and get high. we went into a shittier part of town where he used to teach, and hung out with 1 of his former students, and, as an adult, i now know he had to of molested this kid also. looking back on it, this teenager was a mess.

1 night, close to the end of the school year, we were close to my house, and i was driving his car. he was talking about what good friends we had become, how tight we were. out of nowhere, he said my name, and then said "i want to have oral sex with you". i didn't say a thing to him, just brought his car to a stop, put it in park, and bailed on him. fastest i'd ever run home in my life. he literally said absolutely nothing to me those last few weeks.

this was a catholic gradeschool, and there was a great catholic highschool that a bunch of guys just naturally went to the next year. guess who taught there? this piece of shit. he was doing the same thing, because he was getting tests for other and giving them to different guys. still doing his grooming shit.

i didn't come to terms with it and fully understand what he was trying to do until i was much older. 

i saw him 1 other time in my life. i was walking close to where i used to work with my wife who worked there also. i was in full uniform. he saw me from a distance, and turned whiter than me, which was hard for him to do. he immediately turned around and hightailed it out of there.

no telling how many kid he fucked up during his time teaching.

 

14 days ago
12/24/10
Posts: 5438
Andersons'sPiece -

Are you a gay? 

Hey  - provide your # and a meeting place and I will show you how gay I am.  You have no idea soy boy who you are chirping at

14 days ago
12/24/10
Posts: 5439
eubie5 -

i was in the 8th grade, and i had a teacher that was trying to groom me for several months. obviously, at the time, i didn't understand what he was doing. i thought i was just the cool guy. he brought beer in his briefcase, and during recess, everyone would go outside, and he and i would sit in the and he pour the Little Kings into cups and we'd drink it. after school, we'd go driving in his big ol impala. hell, he actually taught me how to drive, i used to drive that big ass car all over the place. we'd go to his apt, and get high. we went into a shittier part of town where he used to teach, and hung out with 1 of his former students, and, as an adult, i now know he had to of molested this kid also. looking back on it, this teenager was a mess.

1 night, close to the end of the school year, we were close to my house, and i was driving his car. he was talking about what good friends we had become, how tight we were. out of nowhere, he said my name, and then said "i want to have oral sex with you". i didn't say a thing to him, just brought his car to a stop, put it in park, and bailed on him. fastest i'd ever run home in my life. he literally said absolutely nothing to me those last few weeks.

this was a catholic gradeschool, and there was a great catholic highschool that a bunch of guys just naturally went to the next year. guess who taught there? this piece of shit. he was doing the same thing, because he was getting tests for other and giving them to different guys. still doing his grooming shit.

i didn't come to terms with it and fully understand what he was trying to do until i was much older. 

i saw him 1 other time in my life. i was walking close to where i used to work with my wife who worked there also. i was in full uniform. he saw me from a distance, and turned whiter than me, which was hard for him to do. he immediately turned around and hightailed it out of there.

no telling how many kid he fucked up during his time teaching.

 

So sorry to hear man !

14 days ago
12/24/10
Posts: 5440
NorthernHospitality -

Sexual assault. This man put his hands up my dress and felt all of me... happend in a matter of seconds... was so shocked i just froze still. Stared him right in the face as he walked away laughing, found out his name from the event host, went to the police, had no proof obviously, found his home, knocked on the door, told his wife, it wasnt the first time he had done this. That was all i could do. It was a really shitty experience. I will never walk anywhere or mingle at any event anymore without my husband beside me at all times. 

So sorry to hear this

14 days ago
12/24/10
Posts: 5441
WikiTheWalrus -
Andersons'sPiece -

Are you a gay? 

Your question is not funny and is only meant to hurt someone who has already admitted he has had difficulty in the past dealing with this trauma. 

Instead of trying to hurt people, you could just as easily be positive and supportive when a fellow OGer opens up about something and is asking for support. Well-intentioned ribbing is one thing. Being hurtful is very much different. 

Thank You- however on a different post  I have  extended an open invitation to this asshole to come meet me face to face. He will not like the man he faces trust me. I put myself in the 95%  of Alpha Males - maybe this added to it but I am trained and give no fucks- ball in his court 

14 days ago
11/21/05
Posts: 21503

Multiple babysitters and a neighbor before the age of 10.  Didn't really process it until a few years ago.  I'm almost 44.

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9/19/13
Posts: 9358

Yes. All the people who have TDS. I apologize because I know it's a serious topic.

14 days ago
12/5/12
Posts: 5553

One of my mums ex partners grabbed my dick and balls.

 

My mum was a single parent with two kids myself and my brother. She worked a lot obviously to support us kids etc. All I remember of said incident was she picked up a overtime during the night. Which left my brother and myself alone with her long term live in boyfriend to babysit us. During the night my younger brother was put to bed and I got to stay up a little later. So it was the boyfriend and myself left up watching a movie. So there was no issues at the start then he started wrestling me/mucking around and that's were he started grabbing my crouch over and over again. I don't know how it stopped or why he stopped, maybe I blacked it out. 

Anyway the dude was messed up. He ended up knocking my mum up. I also remember a night while she was pregnant and his parents were babysitting my brother and I. When they came to pick us up I heard my mum screaming from outside, everyone went running and apparently he had pushed her down the stairs and he was going for her stomach hitting it.