OtherGround Forums Girl I like has Herpes, Catch or Release?

6/15/19 2:37 PM
1/1/01
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You may remember me from the "Wife cheated, 100k where do I go?" thread.

Update on that. We are living apart and working through the divorce. I'm spending as much time as I can with my girls.

But after a 20 year marriage where I was faithful dating is a whole new world.

I met this girl and she's great. We get along, we laugh a lot and she's cute. We were headed to her house for some sex (I think, what the hell do I know these days) She then told me she has herpes. The type 2 kind, genital herpes. She said that is VERY safe to be with her but there is always a small risk that I could be infected.

Catch or Release? Anyone been through this? Is a condom enough to protect me on this one. I've done some reading that basically says if we do ANYTHING there's a risk.

Who here dates someone with herpes and I appreciate any advice.
6/15/19 2:39 PM
4/12/11
Posts: 11976

Why is this a question? Release ffs.

6/15/19 2:41 PM
11/9/13
Posts: 1265

Coming from someone who was in the same position, dont do it.  Dont even think about it.  I was seeing someone with Herpes, years later i have never even talked to her again.  Luckily i didnt catch it but i still regret putting myself in the position.  

6/15/19 2:42 PM
5/20/07
Posts: 1082

Be glad she was upfront,  that's a good sign.  Risk is probably small if you take precautions.  If you follow through with her, just look up the facts so you know. 

6/15/19 2:42 PM
6/3/19
Posts: 19

Release. If you get it your odds of getting laid after go way down. Not worth the risk. 

6/15/19 2:43 PM
8/20/03
Posts: 144250

Does she have a sister?

Is the sister disease free?

Sleep with the sister and date the girl.

Win/Win

6/15/19 2:43 PM
2/28/13
Posts: 2015

Wait so did you have sex with her or no?

6/15/19 2:43 PM
8/6/09
Posts: 2744
BubblesNS -

Why is this a question? Release ffs.

I have a buddy who caught it from a girl who told him the same thing. Unless youre willing to tell every girl youre going to have sex with for the rest of your life you have herpes and face being rejected for it dont do it

6/15/19 2:44 PM
1/1/01
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Condoms won't protect you. It's transmitted from skin to skin contact. 

You can also catch them orally if you eat her, spread them to her ass, your ass etc. 

I'm not sure how having cold sores and HSV-1 interacts with it. 

 I am not going to give you false hope, but if she takes Valtrex more often than the pope wears a funny hat, your chances MAY be minimal. 

 

Don't be stupid. 

6/15/19 2:44 PM
7/29/13
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BubblesNS -

Why is this a question? Release ffs.

Literally the first thing i thought when read the title. No reason to even read anything else you wrote.

6/15/19 2:45 PM
1/1/01
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Double up on the valtrex you can afford it!

6/15/19 2:51 PM
4/17/13
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Goddammit OP. Why do these threads pop up like dick pimples every few months? DON'T HAVE SEX WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE DISEASES. THATS HOW YOU SPREAD DISEASES.

You know how many marines come to me with spots on their shit crying "She said I couldn't catch it"...?

6/15/19 2:52 PM
6/20/11
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Having to wear condoms ? No thanks 

6/15/19 2:58 PM
4/27/11
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You should already know the answer op

6/15/19 2:59 PM
4/6/12
Posts: 9563

dont do it man, its not worth the risk. you found this chick, youll find anither one. dont take dumb risks bc youre lonely or need to nut

6/15/19 3:01 PM
7/4/16
Posts: 1276

So many dudes out here without herpes,

Why waste your time on a girl with herpes ?

Edited: 6/15/19 3:06 PM
3/25/14
Posts: 462

You might already have herpes but just dont show any symptoms. It is estimated that 81% of people from ages 40 - 49 has some type of herpes. Only about 30% of those people get cold sores/dick bumps.

Oh, and you can totally catch herpes even if you wear condoms. If she's hot, bang!

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.livescience.com/61681-herpes-infections-united-states.html

6/15/19 3:04 PM
1/1/03
Posts: 8034

do it man. the chancces are you have it or someone you ahve been with has it and you dont realize it. 1  in 4 have it. i regret saying no to a chick 10 years ago and she was a dime. 

6/15/19 3:04 PM
1/25/04
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Ask her how many dicks she took before she got the herp

6/15/19 3:05 PM
1/25/04
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Robbbahram - 

do it man. the chancces are you have it or someone you ahve been with has it and you dont realize it. 1  in 4 have it. i regret saying no to a chick 10 years ago and she was a dime. 


But if you got the herp from her, you'd be regretting it right now, no?

6/15/19 3:13 PM
1/1/03
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Jack Carter -
Robbbahram - 

do it man. the chancces are you have it or someone you ahve been with has it and you dont realize it. 1  in 4 have it. i regret saying no to a chick 10 years ago and she was a dime. 


But if you got the herp from her, you'd be regretting it right now, no?

if she is on meds it would be hard to contract if you dont already have it. you cant even detect hsv until you have an outbreak and sometimes people go there entire life without having one.

6/15/19 3:46 PM
1/1/01
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BeavTek - 

You might already have herpes but just dont show any symptoms. It is estimated that 81% of people from ages 40 - 49 has some type of herpes. Only about 30% of those people get cold sores/dick bumps.

Oh, and you can totally catch herpes even if you wear condoms. If she's hot, bang!

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.livescience.com/61681-herpes-infections-united-states.html


I'm clean.

AFter the wife cheated on me I was tested for everything. Haven't gone near anyone since.

No I have not sexed this girl.

She wants it, but was up front about her situation.
6/15/19 3:56 PM
12/28/10
Posts: 3181

Don’t do it bro 

6/15/19 3:58 PM
2/1/13
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Sogflop -

Goddammit OP. Why do these threads pop up like dick pimples every few months? DON'T HAVE SEX WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE DISEASES. THATS HOW YOU SPREAD DISEASES.

You know how many marines come to me with spots on their shit crying "She said I couldn't catch it"...?

Hey doc, I got these bumps on my dick. Mind taking a look?

6/15/19 4:05 PM
11/9/13
Posts: 1266

Easy to tell who has the herp in this thread.  Don’t listen to them OP.