How are you defining soft?
Look in the mirror. BOOOMMM!!!
What makes me soft?
I am curious how OP defines soft. My guess is that it is a superficial judgement of people he doesn't know, fueled by an insecurity about his own inability to have a successful relationship with a woman. He doesn't want to accept that likely reality that he is defining people who are better educated, more cultured, and likely in a higher income bracket as "soft".
He is probably missing out on friendships and interactions with quality women because he is deeming people as "soft", and looking at them as some sort of opponent, rather than the nice people they are.
You know Zned, normally I have alot of respect for you and what you post. You seem like a very smart guy and have definitely done well for yourself. And when I read your first post simply asking how I defined soft I thought to myself "See, there he goes again, not rushing to insult like most of the neckbeards, but actually engaging in a dialogue". But then you had to say what you said in the follow up post and that rushed right out the window. So I'm going to address each post separately.
1) Defining soft: Avoidance of physicality, fear of confrontation, lacking aggression, fear of competition, no will to power, little self-discipline, even less self-respect, abscence of resilience and perseverance, unwilling to put up boundaries, overly aggreable, lacking humility, and fear of looking inward at themselves resulting in unnecessarily lashing out at other people.
2) You talk about me making superficial judgements and then go on to make your own about me? Hypocrite much? I have a girlfriend of over 4 years so you're wrong there. As for education, got a Bachelor's in engineering. Cultured, been to 32 countries. Income, just a shade over 100K so not a lot but not poor either. As for the point I was making, it was actually in reference to the boyfriends of my girlfriend's friends whom all a) have less education, b) have barely traveled if at all and c) definitely make less money than me. She was the one that was talking about this phenomenon. And guess what? Even if they had more money, education, and travel/culture, it wouldn't make them not "soft". Soft is independent of these things. There's people in this world that are more successful/cultured than me that are more badass than me, there's people in this world less successful/cultured than me that are more badass. So to go the route that you did and imply that the statement was posed from some position of insecurity ends up highlighting your own insecurity.