Windy City -
You re killing it Windy. I love you man !
He really is! While I'm not currently paying for sex and haven't in over 10 years, he gets it. Totally.
My current plan is to have a couple of women that want a simple friend with benefits relationship for sex (mostly) and fun (occasionally) - I have those already. Not dimes, hell no, and not young pussy either, but they worship my dick and I bang them raw. I hate condoms so it is a big plus.
While still trying to pick up hot young women because well, it feeds my inner fire, I like doing so, it drives me. Trying to be a hot commodity to females keep us striving, in shape, groomed, disciplined, etc. even as this chase can also derail us from our purpose, so we must be careful to not overdo it.
Eventually, yeah my plan does include paying for some young hotties. As Windy explains, we older dudes with looks and game can get pussy, but it is so much work to bang young hotties, that yeah I can foresee paying for it in the near future.
Bonding and true relationship? Probably will never happen again with a woman. But I have my sons and old friends.
Hey man I may eventually do what you are doing. I am 43 and def can get girls from mid 30's to my age pretty easily I feel, but not really looking to do that at this point in my life. Right now it is theory because I have not done it since my divorce, but I am fairly confident I won't have any problems.
Right now my main focus as far as myself goes is hitting the gym. I would also like to pick up another hobby, thinking about going back to bjj after the newyear (haven't trained in 9 years I quit at purple). The weakness in my life right now is I am completely free 3 days a week out of 14 days, the other 11 I am usually pretty busy. Those three days instead of spending it with guys and going out I am setting up dates with sugar babies. In one way I feel like I am holding myself back in some ways because of this, but I am freshly divorced.
Give the young hotties a try you won't regret it. 200-300 bucks will get you a college age girl who will gag on your cock and do whatever you tell her to do on command. You can have your way with her for a good hour.
I will never get married again. I already have kids and it is too big of a risk. Woman I find today are extremely low quality so I am not missing anything anyway. It is amazing how much the quality has gone down even from the last 10 years.
Quality has really gone down. Crazy. It really is because of social media, dating sites, endlessly repeated media narratives, feminized men having bowed down to feminism more than the feminism itself of these gals. Lately I've chatted with gals that were fuck friends no even 5 years back. They are so entitled now, crazy the difference.
My last GF was 18 younger than me. We were together 3 years. I loved her hard at the end, and she dumped me cold and brutally, cutting all contact. First time in my life I was so hurt. I had started chatting back with her for 10 days since Halloween for the first time in almost 5 months.
Let's just say it got me over her, but as I feared, over all women. She's legit crazy and I didn't see it back then. I thought I indeed had found my "Unicorn", but her perceptions are so skewed, what she says now so different than what she repeated then, she is so illogical, zero accountability, damn. All women seem crazy as hell.
To us men, if it goes beyond sex and lasts, it often becomes a love thing. To them, we have to play an attraction game as if they lose that attraction, their illogical nature will find 100s of ways to be victims, blame us, etc. They go from love to hate or indifference in a snap.
Thing is, when I flirt with a beautiful young gal and there is reciprocity, I'm all in ha ha. We are weak creatures. But I'm damn wary now and low in my expectations for any kind of deep bonding. I don't think it's being jaded, just waking up to female nature, which has no restraints in our time like in the recent past.