Thage - So I've got a confession, and I'm a little embarrassed by it.
I started dating a girl I grew up and graduated with a few months ago. We're 38, she's got 2 kids and is still going through a divorce.
At some point a month ago she mentioned that a girl she's friends with was a sugar baby, and the story the girl tells her is she goes on dates with a few regulars, no intimacy involved, they take her to events, and even fly her out on business trips. My GF is intrigued by easy money, no requirement to be intimate, and asks how I feel about it.
I'm not into it at all. This is for all intents and purposes a good girl. She was with her ex for 20 years, he was her first, and she's only slept with one other guy after her husband and before me.
I tell her she's naive to think that she's going to find what she's thinking will happen (also while she's gorgeous, she's 38 with 2 kids, probably not the demo most legit sugar daddies are looking for).
A big part of it for her is the idea of easy money combined with never being able to do anything she wanted for 20 years with her ex, so this is the most extreme version of "I can do what I want" she could come up with.
I thought I could be serious with her prior to this. She has since said she would most likely never do it, especially considering it's a choice between doing that or being with me, but it's really just the fantasy and easy money. I've told her about this thread and it opened her eyes a bit.
I'm not spending money on her, I'm not letting myself get attached either. It's a great relationship so far but It's super disappointing to see a great girl play with the idea of being lured into prostitution. She says she would never cross that line, but the logical side of me knows that if she puts herself in that situation and then money is laid out in exchange for intimacy she may not be able to easily decline.
It really sucks to think someone you care about could act that way, but behavior like this is why so many guys here seem to have an overall negative view of women.
Maybe I'm a little too cautious, so take my thoughts with a grain of salt...
Sounds a little like she already knows what's actually involved and she's floating a trial balloon into the atmosphere to see how the weather is a/k/a she wants to see if you're "cool" about it or not before being completely honest.
Just a thought.