OtherGround Forums Made a Move at Work.. Rejected.. What Do I Do?

11 days ago
4/12/04
Posts: 6589
Here's my story. I have been working on a project with another supervisor since March (I'm in academia research). For the last month or so, I have grown attracted to her. So while having a meeting relating to our project, we kinda segued into talking about my attraction to her and such. She was really flattered and appreciative and stuff. She also had mentioned if I graduate then perhaps we can have some future (she's a professor and I'm doctorate student). So on my way out, I gestured to her to stand up and gestured for her hand. I held her hand and leaned in for a kiss, but she backed away saying conflict of interest. So I backed away (didn't even kiss her) but felt embarrassed. I think we switched to professional mode and talked about I'll work on the various tasks, etc briefly. And I left.

So yeah, I felt embarrassed and conflicted about trying to kiss her. I should apologize? or what should I do? In any case, what are your thoughts?
11 days ago
12/29/09
Posts: 19636
Rape her.
11 days ago
12/29/09
Posts: 19637
Sorry, I snapped.
11 days ago
10/4/18
Posts: 126
SLAP, RAPE, WIN!
11 days ago
11/14/05
Posts: 1638

You're working together and you try to kiss your superior? It's not a date

11 days ago
2/9/14
Posts: 179
kingofpancakes80 - Rape her.

Edit - Rape and kill her.  

Edited: 11 days ago
1/1/01
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You shut up and never bring it up again until she wants to bang........if ever! 

 

P.S. Don't shit where you eat! 

11 days ago
12/22/10
Posts: 19065

Another degenerate perv in academia, color me surprised. 

 

11 days ago
11/3/14
Posts: 3041

I think at this point you dishonor yourself and family. 

11 days ago
11/13/14
Posts: 3591

Go home and beat off.

11 days ago
4/12/04
Posts: 6590

Come on guys.. seriously responses.

11 days ago
8/16/11
Posts: 22457

Academia research you say?  Hmmm...

11 days ago
3/21/12
Posts: 10452
Pretty dumb to be acting that way in an academic environment in the current climate.
11 days ago
4/13/12
Posts: 23320

Lots of risk for her.  I'd apologize for putting her in that situation if in fact you want to pursue a relationship when you graduate.  How long is that?

11 days ago
7/5/13
Posts: 6491

Can you #metoo your superior? 

 

 

I guess you can. 

11 days ago
5/18/12
Posts: 17957

you seem to be horrible with girls lmao, how could you be so stupid??

11 days ago
2/26/17
Posts: 363

When you say "we kinda segued into talking about my attraction to her and such" do you really mean you professed your love for her and then tried to kiss her?

11 days ago
12/29/09
Posts: 19638
TzTinkle - Pretty dumb to be acting that way in an academic environment in the current climate.

In 2018, what OP has done is literally rape. So, he just should've made it official.
11 days ago
4/12/04
Posts: 6591
EFM - 

Lots of risk for her.  I'd apologize for putting her in that situation if in fact you want to pursue a relationship when you graduate.  How long is that?


you mean how long till I graduate? probably next semester.
11 days ago
7/5/13
Posts: 6492
Donkey Hotee -

Academia research you say?  Hmmm...

I’m told it was the research has to do with lack of girth and pre ejaculation. 

 

It should be noted that this is pure speculation. 

11 days ago
10/29/12
Posts: 1665

Stupid move to bring up how attracted you've become to her during a work meeting - EXTREMELY stupid move to try and lean in and kiss someone during a work meeting no matter how you perceived her "being flattered", Honestly you should be embarrassed. Probably best if you never bring it up again.

11 days ago
7/2/09
Posts: 7693

When in doubt, whip it out. 

11 days ago
7/15/15
Posts: 7776

Don't ever apologize to a womam for being attracted to her, and making a move.  Just treat her as you have always treated her, regardless of the rejection. 

11 days ago
4/12/04
Posts: 6592
Jhay - 

you seem to be horrible with girls lmao, how could you be so stupid??


Not really. It is probably the first work-related attraction I had. So maybe I wasn't savvy on how to deal with on the job relationships.
11 days ago
12/10/09
Posts: 10897
EFM -

Lots of risk for her.  I'd apologize for putting her in that situation if in fact you want to pursue a relationship when you graduate.  How long is that?

This. Apologize then do everything possible to show you can be 100% professional moving forward. Once you’ve graduated you can revisit and ask her out but I wouldn’t count on it being a yes.