OtherGround Forums #MeToo: Men no longer want to mentor women

5/17/19 9:21 PM
1/25/04
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https://nypost.com/2019/05/17/men-are-afraid-to-mentor-women-after-metoo-and-it-hurts-us-all-study/

 

Men are afraid to mentor women after #MeToo and it hurts us all: study

 

Men are scared of women now.

LeanIn.org and SurveyMonkey’s new #MentorHer poll reveals Friday that 60% of male managers report feeling “too nervous” about being accused of harassment to interact with women in “common workplace” activities such as mentoring, socializing and one-on-one meetings.

That’s a 32% spike from 2018, with an additional 36% of men saying they now actively avoid women in junior-level positions — effectively chopping down their shot at climbing the corporate ladder.

“The vast majority of managers and senior leaders are men,” says Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO, SurveyMonkey board member and founder of LeanIn.Org, in a statement. “If they are reluctant even to meet one-on-one with women, there’s no way women can get an equal shot at proving themselves.”

Widening the gender gap is actually an abuse of power, she says.

 

5/17/19 9:21 PM
1/25/04
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“We’re in a bad place — no one’s ever gotten promoted without a one-on-one meeting, I feel confident in saying that,” Sandberg tells “CBS This Morning” host Gayle King Friday. “Senior men right now are nine times more hesitant to travel with a woman and six times more likely to hesitate to have a work dinner.”

Women — and especially women of color — don’t get the same amount of mentoring as men, “which means we’re not getting an equal seat at the table,” Sandberg says. “It’s not enough to not harass us, you need to not ignore us, either.”

The study reports that the fear factor grew in concurrence with the rise of the massive #MeToo social media movement founded by activist Tarana Burke and fueled by a torrent of models and actresses accusing Harvey Weinstein and Bill Cosby of sexual harassment and assault.

 

5/17/19 10:09 PM
7/13/09
Posts: 14802

I’m sure if they complain and talk about how they feel about this situation that they’ve created for themselves it will all work itself out. 

Edited: 5/17/19 10:23 PM
7/24/16
Posts: 3838

Sheryl Sandberg and every other insane cunt that helped facilitate this witch hunt and it taking on a life of it's own would be wise to start taking a little responsibility for why and how we got here. There's consequences to actions. When men see other men being falsely accused of sexual harrassment and assault and being tried in the court of public opinion, which will never favor them no matter how innocent they may be, nature dictates that they will inevitably take defensive measures to protect themselves. You made your bed ladies, no lie in it.

5/17/19 10:25 PM
6/12/13
Posts: 6114

Women are emotional self destructive fuckholes. Blame estrogen. 

 

Thats about it. 

5/17/19 10:28 PM
12/17/06
Posts: 73700

Lol

5/17/19 10:30 PM
3/17/14
Posts: 17563
Either this article came out a while ago and we commented on this already or some OGers predicted this. I cant remember.
5/17/19 10:38 PM
4/9/19
Posts: 548

Do they need us or not?  Make up your mind.

5/17/19 10:39 PM
3/14/04
Posts: 130432
Good. They did it to themselves.
5/17/19 10:42 PM
8/20/05
Posts: 4073

Good. Fuck em

5/17/19 10:45 PM
4/22/07
Posts: 67953

Only reason I would ever mentor a chick is to plow her. 

5/17/19 10:46 PM
6/30/07
Posts: 54308

I just got a new chick partner.

 

Can I refuse on the grounds I'm just too irresistible?

5/17/19 11:05 PM
1/1/01
Posts: 50603

Cant sue us for protecting ourselves.

5/17/19 11:09 PM
8/12/16
Posts: 7560

HAHA.  Satisfying backfire.

5/17/19 11:16 PM
2/9/12
Posts: 5264

Perfect. 

Edited: 5/17/19 11:22 PM
2/4/07
Posts: 29088
I have fun throwing this kind of stuff back at women at work. If someone wants a hug, I refuse and tell them I'm not getting Bidened. If someone asks me to do something at all traditionally masculine, I call them sexist. I explain that I am empowering them by letting them lift the heavy object or fix the broken item or whatever. If someone comments on my clothing or calls me handsome or compliments my cologne, I say that I feel unsafe from their sexual harassment. Most take it in good fun, but I pissed off one pretty good with the stop being sexist stuff.
5/17/19 11:20 PM
2/4/07
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Edited: 5/17/19 11:28 PM
7/24/16
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Sandy Pantz -

Haha. His policy of not being alone with another female that isn't his wife is looking wiser with each passing day.

5/17/19 11:35 PM
4/19/09
Posts: 16659

Fitting but predictable results. 

5/17/19 11:35 PM
3/17/14
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GoffRAMSmahome'sgutsOUT - 
Sandy Pantz -

Haha. His policy of not being alone with another female that isn't his wife is looking wiser with each passing day.


I remember some female talk show was saying that his policy is sexist or some other BS. Hahah.

I cant remember the show but they were pretty heated that he would not have a private dinner with another women.
5/17/19 11:42 PM
10/10/05
Posts: 14418

I manage women. I treat them slightly more sensitive than the men, but I wouldn't really consider myself hesitant to meet with them. I have closed door 1 on 1's with them every week & we have very productive dialog. I'm fortunate in that I was the one to hire them, so I chose quality workers. I don't hit on them or anything sexual like that, so I suppose that helps. 

5/17/19 11:47 PM
3/8/11
Posts: 4776

This is how I feel coaching BJJ, and it sucks. I hate that the females that take my classes can't get the same level of training as the men....but I refuse to risk my reputation by training with some metoo girl who states I was too close to her during a roll. It's not worth the risk, so I don't touch the females. Sad.

5/17/19 11:49 PM
5/22/05
Posts: 22607
I know I'm more careful. If a woman at work turns up with a dramatically different haircut I won't do the polite thing and say it looks good as afraid it could be seen as commenting on their looks.
5/17/19 11:49 PM
4/6/19
Posts: 215
TFK_Kaneman82 -

This is how I feel coaching BJJ, and it sucks. I hate that the females that take my classes can't get the same level of training as the men....but I refuse to risk my reputation by training with some metoo girl who states I was too close to her during a roll. It's not worth the risk, so I don't touch the females. Sad.

especailly with the history in sports with coaches being inappropriate... dangerous ground

5/18/19 12:04 AM
10/2/12
Posts: 10483

I mentored a woman in a pretty physically demanding job. She did well. I quoted something that a woman told me about the job about women doing the job. She immediately misquoted me to the other women doing the job. They took offense for her. Pretty ridiculous. It’s the fake outrage and offense that women want to take at every stage of anything. Told management I was done.