You need to understand it's not possible to fuck this up by not texting her. It's a choice that involves zero risk.
When a woman feels high attraction or interest in a man and fears he is backing away, the first thing she'll do is reach out to reel him back in. If she doesn't, it's because her interest/attraction was barely palpable and you didn't really have a chance in the first place.
You are not going to build attraction with this woman by checking in and letting her know she's on your mind - that's not how it works. Attraction is built when she's forced to wonder about you and take action. Why hasn't he texted me? Did he meet someone else? Is he dead? Did he win the lotto? Is he fucking my sister?
If she's into you, her mind will start running wild as it combs through all the possible ways you're spending your time. As you begin taking up more and more of her headspace, you'll simultaneously be demonstrating the fact you don't need the reassurance of her contact, and have a life of your own to tend to while she's away. These are the traits that drop panties.
You'll be creating attraction while sitting back doing nothing, because her mind will do all the work for you.
This girl hasn't jumped your dick after 3 dates because she has no fear of loss. She knows exactly how much you like her, and subsequently hasn't felt the need to use sex as a tool to keep you on her track, nor has she felt enough attraction to rip your clothes off out of pure lust.
You aren't completely dead yet, but this needs to change.
Let her experience the sensation of wanting to contact you. Let her wonder about what you're doing while she's away. Give her the space to miss you.
If she digs you, she'll try to make plans upon her return. Set something up and use that momentum to escalate things physically. At this juncture it's essential you sexualize the dynamic.
And dude, focus on fixing your insecurities. They will will eventually manifest themselves in the form of jealousy, neediness, and myriad of other ways that send women running. They're delusions, not truths, and they can be expelled.
Now this is some fucking advice! Thank you!
A lot of that makes sense to me. I guess I'm just wondering if she doesn't text me, do I basically consider it done? As of right now, it's been 4 days since I've heard from her.
Based on all the advice, specifically the one above, I'm assuming I wait to hear from her and force her to make the next move. If I don't hear from her by this weekend, which is when she would be getting back, I'll know where I stand.
I think one thing that scares me is wondering if I should have done something different. I don't want to always wonder if I did the right thing.
It's good advice. Don't be afraid to text her when she gets back, but be more forward about what you want. Get her over to your place ASAP
What is the time timeline of the 3 dates and her vacation?
It started in mid January. The big gap between dates is mostly due to her job. The last date was on the 2nd. We were going to go out again but she cancelled due to work obligations. I assumed this wasn't a lie. I asked her out last week, intending it to take place this past weekend. That's when she told me she was going on the vacation.
I told her that I liked going out with her and if she still wanted to go out when she got back, she should hit me up. I said this in the hope that if she didn't want to, she would use this opprotunity to say so.
She responded, "Of course!" and "Ill see you when I get back!"
When I started this thread, I was thinking my chances were 50/50. Looking at all the responses, I now feel like it's closer to 10/90.
I appreciate all the advice, even the cunty ones.
I'm not going to text her and just wait to see what happens. If I don't hear back by the end of this weekend, I'm going to assume it's over and move on.
Based on your reply here, it was clearly left for her to get in touch with you when she returns. If she's the least bit interested, she'll do that.
You jumping the gun and texting her, knowing she's on vacation will kill any interest she may have had.
Let her think you have a life. Not that you're sitting around thinking of her. That's creepy.