OtherGround Forums Wife of 21 Years is Moving Out..

4/22/19 5:15 PM
1/1/01
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So, there's that.

4/22/19 5:16 PM
1/1/01
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Lots of misunerstanding and things left unaddressed. Lack of communication is the fundamental issue. Lack of speaking each other's love language is one of the primary ones. 

Edited: 4/22/19 5:18 PM
6/26/06
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She's ..-. ..- -.-. -.- .. -. --. a black guy.
4/22/19 5:21 PM
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RenatoCocopreta - She's ..-. ..- -.-. -.- .. -. --. a black guy.

If so, that would probably help things and I'd like her less... But as it stands. I'm still madly in love with her and hate this for her, us and her very loving family. 

4/22/19 5:22 PM
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JitsuGuy -
RenatoCocopreta - She's ..-. ..- -.-. -.- .. -. --. a black guy.

If so, that would probably help things and I'd like her less... But as it stands. I'm still madly in love with her and hate this for her, us and her very loving family. 

That's the language of a guy who's going to keep paying for her shit while she's fucking somebody else. Don't do it.

4/22/19 5:22 PM
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JitsuGuy -
RenatoCocopreta - She's ..-. ..- -.-. -.- .. -. --. a black guy.

If so, that would probably help things and I'd like her less... But as it stands. I'm still madly in love with her and hate this for her, us and her very loving family. 

Feel ya bro. 7 years and the ol lady is taking off. Let’s move in together. 

4/22/19 5:23 PM
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Sucks sorry man. Sit her down, say EVERYTHING that is on your mind, leave nothing out. Don't let her leave with unsaid shit. It just may save your marriage.
4/22/19 5:24 PM
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TheRoguewrestler - Sucks sorry man. Sit her down, say EVERYTHING that is on your mind, leave nothing out. Don't let her leave with unsaid shit. It just may save your marriage.

Oh, I definitely will! 

4/22/19 5:24 PM
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Sorry to hear that man. Stay strong brother.
4/22/19 5:25 PM
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JitsuGuy - 
RenatoCocopreta - She's ..-. ..- -.-. -.- .. -. --. a black guy.

If so, that would probably help things and I'd like her less... But as it stands. I'm still madly in love with her and hate this for her, us and her very loving family. 


Damn.

Nothing cuts as deep as the glance from someone who USED to love you.
4/22/19 5:26 PM
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In for updates. Sorry OP

4/22/19 5:27 PM
7/30/14
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Sounds rough man, hope it all works out ok.

4/22/19 5:28 PM
3/26/13
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I think alot of these women that separate after so much time are going to be in for a rude awakening as to what the scene looks like now that they are the beacons of feminine youth they once were.  On a related note, if she comes crawling back, you can't take her back.  Her actions are basically saying "I am going to try to find something better".  If she comes back, her actions will be saying "I tried, but I couldn't do better or couldn't find better to stick with me, so I'll settle for you again".  Stay strong.  Dive into your hobbies, esp. your most masculine hobbies.  You'll feel better.

4/22/19 5:31 PM
9/3/12
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Before she leaves, tell her to bend over real fast it works for me 

4/22/19 5:32 PM
10/10/05
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Hang in there. I'm going through the opposite in that I decided to leave my wife after 9 years. It's tough, but the tough times are when we grow the most. 

4/22/19 5:33 PM
6/20/08
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Damn hate hearing that OP

4/22/19 5:37 PM
12/18/08
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So sorry OP

4/22/19 5:39 PM
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JitsuGuy -
RenatoCocopreta - She's ..-. ..- -.-. -.- .. -. --. a black guy.

If so, that would probably help things and I'd like her less... But as it stands. I'm still madly in love with her and hate this for her, us and her very loving family. 

If it makes you feel better I'm the black guy, hello. 

4/22/19 5:43 PM
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qcddog03 -
JitsuGuy -
RenatoCocopreta - She's ..-. ..- -.-. -.- .. -. --. a black guy.

If so, that would probably help things and I'd like her less... But as it stands. I'm still madly in love with her and hate this for her, us and her very loving family. 

Feel ya bro. 7 years and the ol lady is taking off. Let’s move in together. 

Do it, and get bunk beds so you'll have all that extra space for activities 

4/22/19 5:44 PM
4/7/19
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best of luck

4/22/19 5:44 PM
4/27/07
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Drink alot the first couple of months 

4/22/19 5:48 PM
8/15/18
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JitsuGuy -
RenatoCocopreta - She's ..-. ..- -.-. -.- .. -. --. a black guy.

If so, that would probably help things and I'd like her less... But as it stands. I'm still madly in love with her and hate this for her, us and her very loving family. 

Sorry to hear this my fellow OG’er 

4/22/19 5:51 PM
1/1/01
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Thanks guys... I'm an emotional wreck... I met her when I was 17. She's been a part of my identity ever since then. I'd give my life for her in a heartbeat without thought. This is by far the most trying thing I've been through in my entire life. I've been in a perpetual state of trauma for weeks.

 

I don't know what her objectives are... I don't know if she wants to work on things, or if she needs clarity or if this is her way of saying it's over... But man, I don't know if I can handle 6 months of her doing what she needs, hoping for the best for us and then her coming back and saying it's over... 

 

I mean, are we still even wearing our wedding bands through all of this? I don't know. We'll have that discussion tonight.

4/22/19 5:52 PM
1/1/01
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So, here's another "divorce" thread, OG! You know you wanted one! Hopefully, in this case, that's not what it is. But I'm slowly losing my optimism.

4/22/19 5:55 PM
4/17/15
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21 years is a long time. How many of those have been unhappy? If a lot, then it might not be salvageable. If a year or so, there may be a chance.